Influencer in Deep Water After Dating Blacklist Leakage

By Liu Yunru
October 19, 2021, 2:43 PM
Lianhe Wanbao

In the name of helping fellow women discover the “red flags” when dating guys, a female influencer created a chat group on an instant messaging app for girls to share their dating experiences. But a certain member made a blacklist which not only exposed the personal information of dozens of men but even accused some of them of cheating, coercion and sexual assault, causing an uproar on social media. Koh Boon Ki, a 23-year-old cyberstar who has over 110,000 followers on the online platform TikTok, created this group chat on Monday, October 18. The recent pharmacy graduate of the National University of Singapore did it for girls to discuss their dating experiences to avoid bad dates. Unexpectedly, the whole thing quickly went south. A blacklist suspected of exposing personal data was leaked from the group, where the personal information of dozens of men was disclosed along with some allegations ranging from cheating to even coercion and sexual assault. Such a leak made quite a few netizens uncomfortable and the claims in this list were also put under question. Some even wondered if the list might be a weapon that the female members used to attack or slander their former dates.

The influencer apologises on video

Koh made a video afterwards to express her apologies and explained that her intentions had been simple and good – to give girls a chance to share their dating experiences in the group. She said, “I screened every member to make sure that only girls joined the group chat, but it’s indeed my fault that I did not lay down certain regulations.” She added that she didn’t expect the whole thing to get out of control and the blacklist to end up getting circulated on the Internet. But as soon as she found out, she immediately asked the member who made the list to remove it. She stated that she had no way to verify the details on the list, but if any of the allegations were true, she hopes authorities could step in and investigate. The public holds varied views on this issue. Some pointed out that the biggest problem was that many comments on the list were subjective in nature and were possibly intended to defame others deliberately. Others suggested that people should focus on the allegations themselves, with comments such as, “Many just see a leak of personal information, but no one cares about the truth behind the allegations. And if they’re true, who knows if the victims will get the help they need.”

Group atmosphere turns awkward with discussions on sexual prowess

The list had two separate tabs labelled “Blacklist” and “Avoid”. Some discussions changed tune when girls started to talk about the sexual prowess or lack thereof of their dates. According to online screenshots, there are two tabs on the list, “Blacklist” and “Avoid”. The “Blacklist” page shows the reasons that the men were listed, including allegations of recording sex videos without consent or extorting money with nude photos. There were also allegations such as toying with a girl’s emotions to manipulate her into paying bills or even ghosting a fiancée two months after proposing. The chat group has since been closed down and the list deleted, but screenshots of the list are still circulating around the Internet.

The influencer and the contributor may be liable for defamation and harassment

The lawyers interviewed noted that the influencer and the contributor who uploaded the list may be liable for defamation and harassment. Lawyer Lam Kuet Keng said, “The person of interest is an influencer. Her making and posting the video of the chat group will no doubt have an effect. On top of that, the list did originate from this group, so in addition to her, the contributor who made and uploaded the list may also be accused of harassment. If those complaints are found to have been falsified, both would face defamation charges.” Lawyer Nicolas Tang said that as the creator of the group, it’s difficult for Koh to moderate all the content shared in the group 24/7. But as the group administrator, she has the right to add or remove members and delete the uploaded list. “If a victim makes a request but she remains uncooperative, she may need to incur even more liabilities.” However, Tang added that this incident is different from the previous SG Nasi Lemak case because Koh merely intended to provide a platform for girls to talk about their dating experiences, whereas members in the SG Nasi Lemak case deliberately distributed obscene photos and videos in the group chat.

Original article：https://www.zaobao.com.sg/news/singapore/story20211019-1204807

⽂ / 刘芸如
发布 / 2021年10⽉19⽇ 2:43 PM
来⾃ / 联合晚报

称帮⼥⽣们约会“避雷”，⼥⽹红在聊天应⽤创建群组，供⼥⽣们分享曾经的约会经验，谁知群组有⼥成员制作⼀份列出数⼗名男⼦的⿊名单，不仅列出男⼦的个⼈资料，⼀些⼈还遭到欺骗、逼迫和性侵犯等的指控，在社交媒体掀起轩然⼤波。

在⽹络平台Tik Tok坐拥逾11万粉丝的⼥⽹红许⽂琪（23岁，⼈名译⾳）是在本周⼀（10⽉18⽇）创建这个聊天群组。

刚从国⼤药剂系毕业的她创建聊天群组的原意是供⼥⽹友们分享约会经历，以规避奇葩的约会对象。

岂料整个事态过后急转直下，⼀份被指涉嫌泄露个⼈资料的⿊名单从该群组传出，名单上列明数⼗名男⼦的个⼈资料，更控诉他们当中的⼀些⼈，涉嫌欺骗、逼迫和性侵犯等罪名。

不少⽹友看到后⼤感不妥，也质疑该名单的真实性，甚⾄认为不排除⼥⽹友借此名单来攻击或诽谤约会对象。

⼥⽹红拍视频道歉

许⽂琪事后特地拍摄视频表示歉意，称⾃⼰最初本着好意，希望⼥⽣们可分享彼此的约会经验。“对于群组的成员，我都逐⼀进⾏核查，确认她们是⼥⽣后，才将她们拉进群组，但确实是我的疏忽，没能在群组定下规范。”

她说，⾃⼰没意识到事态会失控，过后⿊名单甚⾄在⽹上流传。当⾃⼰得知后，已第⼀时间通知了设名单的⼥成员，请对⽅将名单移除。

她表示，⾃⼰并没办法验证⽹友们所列出的事件是否真实，但若确有其事，也希望当局能介⼊调查。

⽹友对此事则意⻅不⼀，有⼈指此事最⼤问题在于不少评论是主观的，也不排除故意诋毁他⼈。

另有⽹友表示，⼤家应把重点放在那些指控上，“很多⼈只在乎个⼈资料的泄露，却没⼈在意那些事件是否真有其事；若属实，也不知受害者是否得到相应帮助。”

议对象性能⼒ 群组讨论变调名单上分成“⿊名单”和“避免约会”的组别，群组⾥的⼀些讨论也已经变调，有的⼥成员甚⾄议论约会对象的性能⼒。

根据流传的照⽚显示，名单分为“⿊名单”和“避免约会”两⻚，其中在“⿊名单”⻚⾯中，⽹友有列明不同男⼦被放⼊⿊名单的原因，包括有⼈被指未经⼥⽣允许，擅⾃录下性爱视频或⽤⼥⽣裸照勒索钱财。

也有男⼦被指故意打感情牌，让⼥⽣帮忙还⽀票；还有⼈则被指向⼥⽣求婚两个⽉后，突然⼈间蒸发。

据了解，⽬前相关群组已经关闭，那份名单也已经被删除，但⽹上仍在流传名单的截图照⽚。

⽹红和⼥成员或涉诽谤骚扰

受访律师表示，⼥⽹红以及上传名单的⼥成员，或涉及诽谤和骚扰。

律师蓝国庆说：“对⽅是⼀名⽹红，她录制创建群组的视频发出来后，必定会有⼀定的影响⼒，⽽且这个名单是出⾃群组内，因此不仅是⼥⽹红本⼈，制作和上传名单者都可能涉及骚扰。若是这些控诉的内容不实，则两者还会涉及诽谤的罪名。”

律师董智豪则表示，作为群组的创建者，许⽂琪也很难随时随地对群组⾥的所有内容进⾏监管，但管理员有权删除或添加群组成员，以及删除上传的名单。

“若是有受害者提出诉求，但她执意拒绝配合，这时或许可追加她的责任。”

董智豪也提到此事件与此前的“SG Nasi Lemak”案不同，许⽂琪的初衷是希望⼤家分享约会经验，“⽽SG Nasi Lemak”案中，成员是刻意在群组中散播⾊情视频及不雅照。

原文：https://www.zaobao.com.sg/news/singapore/story20211019-1204807